When this begins to happen, it is a warning sign to get out immediately.
The truth is, it probably was their fault, the easiest thing and the thing that will bother them the most is if you do not react, the reaction is what they are after.
This is just an example of what he was doing to her, I have many such stories to tell.
He says he is sorry.
If their partner is not acting in a way that pleases them, they will say something along these lines to force the person into a position of submission.
As you attempt to coordinate life with a narcissist, the single most common mistake you can make is to presume you can make the narcissist become normal and healthy.